Chicago Home and Lifestyles – Getting better at small talk
Even the most intelligent among us dread the inevitable social situation when we must engage in small talk. Unfortunately for them, we all need to engage with strangers or people we don’t know well. Here are a few ways to navigate this or even enjoy it!
One way is to reframe the situation. Think about it as something like a treasure hunt. You never know just how interesting that person standing next to you in the buffet line really is! Who knows what life experiences or cool information they have to share, and where the conversation could lead?
You can start small.Start out with a general talk about the weather, careful not to drag it out for longer than a few minutes. Then, slowly go further to try and get a little more personal. If you ask a co-worker how their weekend was, they might say they went to a concert. Instead of just saying that’s great, ask what the best part of it was. People love to give their opinions and it’s a great way to get to know someone!
Complementing or commenting on their appearance can also be an ice breaker and give insight into that person. But be careful not to sound creepy! Saying someone has beautiful eyes could make them feel uncomfortable, but commenting on an unusual piece of jewelry shows interest. Complementing a tattoo will often lead to an interesting story.
Try to steer clear of landmine subjects like politics and religion. Even asking someone if they are married or have children can seem intrusive. Inquiring about someone’s work status can be tricky too. Instead, ask what the person does in their off time. This will likely lead to a much more relaxed conversation!
Remember, conversation is a two-way street. Answer generously when you are asked a question. One-word answers are not acceptable. Be an active player. When asked how you are, you can say I’m great and then add why. Perhaps you are trying a new workout you love, or reading a great book, or watching a new series.
Above all, go into these everyday small talk situations with an open mind. You just might have a good time!
Kathleen Weaver-Zech and Dean’s Team Chicago
